Memoirs of the Innocent

The Dilemma of Traveling Alone

This post is inspired by the Daily Post’s Daily Prompt word, nerve

The first thing that came to my mind when I read the daily prompt’s word yesterday was the emotion of being nervous. I explored my heart and asked myself, what makes me nervous? And, there’s a lot, but I want to talk about a dilemma that I’ve been experiencing.

I love traveling. The feeling of experiencing something for the first time is magical and this is what traveling does to me. The first time I speak a word from an unfamiliar language, the first time I eat a native delicacy of the place, the feeling of seeing something for the first time and so many firsts – it’s an absolutely delightful experience.

One of the things that I have never done is traveling alone. I’ve been planning to do it but the fear gets in the way. I planned to go to Turkey alone and then the bombings took place, and I just couldn’t do it. It has always been in the back of my mind, all I’m waiting for is the right time, the right place and the right chance.

One of the biggest factors of why I haven’t made this possible is because of security reasons. I’ve been thinking that I need to do my first solo travel in a country that is relatively safe and welcoming to tourists. And, it’s because I’m a woman. I feel like I need to make an extra effort to ensure my safety because of my sex.

I’ve recently read a news about two women backpackers from Argentina that were found dead in Ecuador . Apparently, they accepted an offer from a pair of men for a place to stay. This news is tragic but it’s horrifying that some people are actually blaming these women for their deaths, because “they should have known better.”

Why? Just why? I cannot wrap my head around how actual human being would think this way. It’s absolutely disgusting. You can read more about it here.

Women should be able to travel solo without having to continuously ask themselves if it’s safe for them to be wearing this piece of clothing or if it’s ok to talk to this man or if it’s ok to tell someone she’s alone and so much more.

You would think that in this century, we’re better off but, the double standards of society is still there.

I’m hoping that someday, when I do get the chance to travel solo, I won’t have to think too much about the dark side of people.


4 thoughts on “The Dilemma of Traveling Alone

  1. Unfortunately in this world, you have to learn to balance and pick your battles. Heaven must be earned, I think. Their are con artists and manipulative people everywhere especially when you look like a tourist and make no effort to blend in. Once you feel as safe as you can make yourself be, you can enjoy your trips much better.. I wanted to visit Sivas, Turkey, a small little Province as opposed to Istanbul (where I would assume you were going), but I had no big strong man to tempt the other men away. Hire a body guard maybe.


    1. Safety is always a concern, whether you’re traveling alone or with a group. Istanbul is a go to, so I’ve heard. Always wanted to see Hagia Sophia in real life. Just hope that these idiots don’t destroy them first.


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